Every parent faces challenges in keeping a balanced life especially for the children, much more so a single parent. Here are a few tips on how to make life easier for you and your child.
LETTING GO OF THE PAST
There is nothing to be gained from harbouring anger, bitterness or resentment at the other parent who shelves off his/her responsibility towards your child at your expense . I have learnt that the hard way as it changes nothing about the current situation. Instead, channel such energy towards creating a loving environment for your child and yourself.
HAVE A NETWORK OF RELIABLE PEOPLE
Nothing beats having dependable friends and family to rely on; be it for baby-sitting purpose, counsel, finances, or just for the sake of creating a warm environment for your child to grow and develop. Every child deserves to feel loved and wanted, and you alone cannot create that.
BE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
This is the most crucial element in raising a child alone. If you've read some of my older posts, I mentioned the amount of time I spend in making sure that my financial situation is in order. It doesn't mean that I have all the money available in the world to take care of our needs, but at least, compared to what I earn I put a huge chunk away for savings.
This might seem stressful for some people, even for parents that live together, but every child needs that me-time from mommy or daddy. It helps to instill a sense of commitment and stability. It could be reading a book together before bedtime, playing games, or eating dinner at a certain time.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS
The easiest thing to do anytime we face challenges is to lay the blame on someone else, even on our children sometimes. A child in a single parent home is not at fault for whatever situation you are in today. Learn to smile through your tears, and share what you are going through with your child in the most loving manner. You will be surprised at how children, even little ones can provide the shoulder you need to cry on.